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Hi,
I'm new here and after some advise 🙂
My partner is a meat eater (eats alot of meat!)
I am a vegan.
He has 3 children who are all meat eaters (ages 8 to 13) all eat meat constantly. They are all very overweight aswell and greedy.
Does anyone else get upset seeing greedy children eat large quantities of meat not caring about where it's coming from. I cant stop thinking about how many animals deaths and abuse they will cause. They over eat aswell they are killing more than the average weight person. 😢
How do I deal with these emotions without it eating me up?! (excuse the pun!!)
 
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Hi,
I'm new here and after some advise 🙂
My partner is a meat eater (eats alot of meat!)
I am a vegan.
He has 3 children who are all meat eaters (ages 8 to 13) all eat meat constantly. They are all very overweight aswell and greedy.
Does anyone else get upset seeing greedy children eat large quantities of meat not caring about where it's coming from. I cant stop thinking about how many animals deaths and abuse they will cause. They over eat aswell they are killing more than the average weight person. 😢
How do I deal with these emotions without it eating me up?! (excuse the pun!!)
I don't see how you can deal with this situation Acie. I think the problems it's going to cause you, especially on a long term basis, will far outweigh the gains you get from this relationship. Sorry to be so negative but I really think the odds are against you. 🤔
 
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I don't see how you can deal with this situation Acie. I think the problems it's going to cause you, especially on a long term basis, will far outweigh the gains you get from this relationship. Sorry to be so negative but I really think the odds are against you. 🤔
I am so sorry you're having such a difficult time. Have you spoken to your partner about your concerns on the subject?
 

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Your partner is YOUR CHOICE. Deciding to stay with someone with either the hope they will change, or the hope you will learn to accept what you dislike is a really really bad decision
You don't say how long you've had this relationship, but how you describe the children it sounds new. Children need respect and values, it's hard enough for them to accept a step parent in their life.

There's a whole lot more than them being meateaters here you have to deal with
 

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Yes I have spoken to him he says that I shouldnt talk about being Vegan to him or his children. He doesnt want to know the horrific things that happen to the animals and I am not allowed to educate his children on the matter.
Believe it or not we have been together 4 years. I only became fully vegan one year ago.
You are all right I was hoping they would change. Maybe he would see me as a good role model but because he thinks being vegan is "stupid" he will not see me as a good role model.
Thank you for your replies 🙂
 

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I do sympathize with your situation. I think you need to come to terms with it if you are going to stay together. I would not try to push the issue on them. It is possible you will be a good example but it could take a very long time. The question is are you able to overlook their eating habits and just try to coexist.
 

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Yes I have spoken to him he says that I shouldnt talk about being Vegan to him or his children. He doesnt want to know the horrific things that happen to the animals and I am not allowed to educate his children on the matter.
Believe it or not we have been together 4 years. I only became fully vegan one year ago.
You are all right I was hoping they would change. Maybe he would see me as a good role model but because he thinks being vegan is "stupid" he will not see me as a good role model.
Thank you for your replies 🙂
These statements are really concerning. He's treating you as his child, and it sounds as if he thinks quite less of you than his children
 
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Hello!
I have read your statement, and, from my personal experience, it is better not to push the buttons and persuade them into changing they point of view. It will end bad, and you will be left sad and hurt. Maybe over time they will see and learn the benefits of veganism and become one too, but until then I recommend you no to do anything and live one.
Meghan
 
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