"There is a simple Proverb (18:24) that says "A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: "
So you have to ask yourself, do you show yourself friendly?"
It is not necessarily just that issue. One who is married won't understand issues of those who are not.
Hi Vanille,I know what it's like to have truly no one... Luckily I found my current job (last year) and made some friends there... Yeah I still live with my relatives but it's not a healthy environment (lots emotional abuse, threatening) but at least I have a roof above my head. I'm just waiting for a decent appartment to become available.
Meeting new people ain't easy either. I live in a rural area and can't drive (not because I haven't tried, I gave up after 6 failed tests, some psychological tests and isane amount of money) at school I got bullied a lot, the few friends I had ditched me when I came out as lesbian... The only girlfriend I had was online and she lied about her sexuality... So yeah no one has ever loved me lol
Humans have hurt and disappointed me my whole life. I'm staying a lonewolf and celibate till I run into someone actually special (must say, there is a candidate but I doubt she likes me in THAT way) there's a reason I value animals so much. I'm lucky to at least click with my coworkers as I see them the most.
My new lifestyle might make it even harder to make friends but at the same time... IF I somehow manage to, they'll be just my kind of people. I rather have no friends than fake or toxic ones. I might just meet people through my veganism as well, maybe...
Thank you so much!Hi Vanille,
I'm glad you've been able to make some friends through your work, and I hope that you are able to find some friends through veganism.
It's tough living in an emotionally abusive situation and I hope you're able to get out of there soon.
I live in a rural/regional area too, so I know how tough and isolating it can feel. You can feel free to send me a private message anytime, if you feel like a chat.
This! I used to be fascinated with the thought of being a lighthouse keeper or a researcher on a remote Arctic island or living in a shed in the woods ... angry at the world, probably working ferociously on my manifesto ...!I used to fantasize about living in the woods all by myself and never having to talk to another human being.
I got a bit curious when I read this. Are you saying you don't do Christmas/Yule at all? Or Easter? Summer solstice? You don't even get a pumpkin for Halloween or at least watch a scary film? So if not Western, do you celebrate ... Eastern holidays?My relatives celebrate western holidays (I don't),
I got a bit curious when I read this. Are you saying you don't do Christmas/Yule at all? Or Easter? Summer solstice? You don't even get a pumpkin for Halloween or at least watch a scary film? So if not Western, do you celebrate ... Eastern holidays?
To me, these are just holidays to mark the passing of seasons, which is something humans have done for aeons. They are festivals for spring, summer, autumn, winter. I feel like these celebrations satisfy a sort of primal need. People need parties! Also, partly I celebrate because I'm a dad and children enjoy it, partly so we can maintain family relations, partly because it brings back fond memories of good times had. Myself, my wife, our daughter as well as my parents are atheists, so to us there is little Christian about these holidays, although we did go to a Christmas pageant a few years ago - partly because of the donkey that came from the local donkey sanctuary - my daughter is very interested in and fond of animals. And my daughter is rehearsing a Jesus-y Christmas recorder song. There is no escaping that we live in a culturally Christian country!
BTW, very sorry to hear you lost you partner.