Yep, your first sentence of your second paragraph is What it means to be Vegan…I think in the US many dairies feed dairy cattle on grains because it's so cold so they house them indoors and intensive indoor systems are more common. But here in Australia our dairy cattle are typically grazed on open pasture and are rarely heavily grain-fed. I don't know what it might be like where Tom lives though. My point is more that taking a "least harm" approach doesn't necessarily demand not consuming animal products, whereas veganism does in almost all cases because it isn't dependant upon the degree of harm or cruelty etc.
Of course you can just say veganism is about never consuming or using animal products and that's fine - it's simple and clear. But that's not very compelling (why can't I eat an animal product? Because veganism says you can't), so there's no obvious reason to act that way.
The reason To act that way is out of Compassion - which Is what Veganism is All about.
The open pasture that the dairy cattle are grazing on - does it grow Naturally in the Australian climate? Are the fields tilled to sow the grass?
What was the land like before it was used for grazing cattle? Were trees felled? Were native habits destroyed?
No, you will Never convince Me that Veganism is not the Best way to Do the Least Harm.
And there is No need for humans to drink dairy milk.