Knowing your neighbors
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I say hello when I recognize them. (There are a lot of neighbours around us, and I struggle to keep track!) Definitely speak to our next-door neighbour, and Mrs & young Ms Summer go to visit or invite her over occasionally for tea. They also talk to the lady with the cats who lives in the next house down the road, I guess especially since young Ms Summer is fascinated with their cats.
The first day our neighbors came in they brought pie, but we haven't talked to them since. The other neighbors I don't know at all either. People say people know each other in small towns very well, but that's not the case here.
hungryraccoon
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Next door neighbours are my boyfriends family so yes, know them quite well. Other neighbours are now friends too. We know other people on the street to say hello to & a few well enough to have a.chat with 
I've just been to see an elderly neighbour who fractured her shoulder. As she has been stuck at home for the last two months, I've been paying her visits for a chat.
Some of my neighbours are friendly and polite and others are really unpleasant. So, I do chat with some of them and ignore others. However, I don't socialise with any of them.
Some of my neighbours are friendly and polite and others are really unpleasant. So, I do chat with some of them and ignore others. However, I don't socialise with any of them.
thefadedone
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This. Although I do my best to avoid ALL of them no matter how friendly they are. I just like to keep to myself and stay away from neighborhood gossip which most of my neighbors are really into.
I really enjoy the winter because it means I see less and less of my neighbors. Summer is pretty much a nightmare when I am outside. More people need to hybernate in the summer!
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When I was a kid we knew all of our neighbors and would visit with them. Now, I've only talked to the nearest neighbor twice, and both times were about her cat. It's a rural area and everyone lives pretty far apart. People do wave as they drive by though.
LOL, I hear that. I haven't actually met many of my neighbors. I live in a large apartment complex, so I run into only those in my building. A few are rather unpleasant and rude, so I avoid them. I'm not home long enough to get to know any of them.This. Although I do my best to avoid ALL of them no matter how friendly they are. I just like to keep to myself and stay away from neighborhood gossip which most of my neighbors are really into.
I really enjoy the winter because it means I see less and less of my neighbors. Summer is pretty much a nightmare when I am outside. More people need to hybernate in the summer!
Chryssie
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I have only lived in my apartment for a few months so I really don't KNOW any of my neighbors. I have spoken to several though and I always say "hi' when I encounter someone. They all seem nice and fairly friendly but everyone is so busy with their own lives. I don't know if people socialize with one another or not at this point. Perhaps in the summer when people are out on their patios more, there will be more friendliness. I also keep to myself though.
ledboots
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I know a few. The old guy Bill across the street is apparently Mr Fix it for everyone, and I've met the neighbors on both sides of me and several across the street. One guy a few houses down has a cool jazz jam on Wednesday evenings, so I sit out front of my house and listen sometimes. They are a cool group who play, older guys who drive refurbished hearses and old vw bugs.
Chryssie
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I know a few. The old guy Bill across the street is apparently Mr Fix it for everyone, and I've met the neighbors on both sides of me and several across the street. One guy a few houses down has a cool jazz jam on Wednesday evenings, so I sit out front of my house and listen sometimes. They are a cool group who play, older guys who drive refurbished hearses and old vw bugs.
That sounds pretty cool! There is an artist living in one of the apartments and several college students live here too. There is a mix of ages, a few kids, older folks too. I wouldn't mind socializing a bit with my neighbors. We shall see how it goes.
kazyeeqen
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When I look out my front door I see a house in which my boss, the coop operations manager, kitchen supervisor and a cook all live, so I know them. I chat with our sketchy downstairs neighbors who are nice enough in their sketchy redneck way, but no one else in the apartment building.
I am friendly when I see my neighbors but after 19 years, I can't say that I am friends with any of them. We are all more like neighborly.
When one of our trees fell down across our driveway, My neighbors to the left of me and the ones across the street didn't hesitate to come with their power saws to help us clear it away. That was a huge help and much appreciated.
We basically only see each other during the winter time when we are shoveling snow, and, occasionally, during the warmer months if we are gardening outside. Personally, I prefer shoveling snow to gardening but then I am a self-proclaimed wacko.
There is one woman who tried to develop a friendship with me when I first moved here, but sadly, I just did not click with her. She is very pushy and overbearing. It was very hard for me to have a conversation with her because anything I would say would be wrong in her mind and she felt like she had to set me straight. She is nice enough and I do believe she is well meaning, but it just made me uncomfortable and it wasn't fun. After years of turning down her invitations I think she finally got the hint and stopped calling. It's a little awkward because I find myself hiding when I see her outside. But if I do run into her she still comes over and has something to say. I can live with that.
It was very different when I was growing up. Some of the neighbors were even family members like aunts, uncles and grandparents. We knew everyone and everyone knew us and we always socialized together. It was actually quite nice. I prefer that to how it is now but I guess it's because I grew up that way and that's what I'm used to.
When one of our trees fell down across our driveway, My neighbors to the left of me and the ones across the street didn't hesitate to come with their power saws to help us clear it away. That was a huge help and much appreciated.
We basically only see each other during the winter time when we are shoveling snow, and, occasionally, during the warmer months if we are gardening outside. Personally, I prefer shoveling snow to gardening but then I am a self-proclaimed wacko.
There is one woman who tried to develop a friendship with me when I first moved here, but sadly, I just did not click with her. She is very pushy and overbearing. It was very hard for me to have a conversation with her because anything I would say would be wrong in her mind and she felt like she had to set me straight. She is nice enough and I do believe she is well meaning, but it just made me uncomfortable and it wasn't fun. After years of turning down her invitations I think she finally got the hint and stopped calling. It's a little awkward because I find myself hiding when I see her outside. But if I do run into her she still comes over and has something to say. I can live with that.
It was very different when I was growing up. Some of the neighbors were even family members like aunts, uncles and grandparents. We knew everyone and everyone knew us and we always socialized together. It was actually quite nice. I prefer that to how it is now but I guess it's because I grew up that way and that's what I'm used to.
Clueless Git
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I talk to all of my neighbours.
That's if they don't see me coming and run back indoors first, of course.
Seriously, we live in a small cul-de-sac of less than 20 houses.
When we moved there nearly every house had children of about the same age.
Kiddies all played out together so all the adults got to know each other quite quickly that way.
That's if they don't see me coming and run back indoors first, of course.
Seriously, we live in a small cul-de-sac of less than 20 houses.
When we moved there nearly every house had children of about the same age.
Kiddies all played out together so all the adults got to know each other quite quickly that way.
thefadedone
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That's good to know that you can rely on them for help if you need it for things like that.
Is that a good thing or a bad thing? Do they respect your privacy?
That's very sweet of you Shyvas. I'm sure she appreciates the company.
Do you have a community room, gym, pool, or picnic/playground area on the property there?
Chryssie
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No, there is nothing like that at this apartment. The only thing is a little gazebo located by the office where I have seen a few people congregating. I do not know if they have any activities as I haven't been here long enough. I will see how it is when the weather gets warm enough for people to be outdoors more.
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I have not lived here long and was a wary of my neighbours as they barely a knowledged our arrival and only came round once to deliver a parcel and even then seemed distant and unfriendly.
Then one day when I having a bit of a personal crisis I sat out in my car crying and the neighbour came out in the rain and told me to come round. I sat drinking coffee with them pouring out my life story and they theirs!
Turned out that the wife had cancer and they are going through a worrying time which made them oblivious to what was happening in the road .
Since that time we get on great and although we keep to ourselves I know they would help me if I needed it and vice versa.
So easy to misjudge what is going on!
Then one day when I having a bit of a personal crisis I sat out in my car crying and the neighbour came out in the rain and told me to come round. I sat drinking coffee with them pouring out my life story and they theirs!
Turned out that the wife had cancer and they are going through a worrying time which made them oblivious to what was happening in the road .
Since that time we get on great and although we keep to ourselves I know they would help me if I needed it and vice versa.
So easy to misjudge what is going on!
