Ok, so I'm pretty frustrated right now...
I've been veg*an for about 8 years now and I come from a super unsupportive, meat and potatoes, "oh you know what would be good on that? Meat!" Type of family. So I've herd it ALL. Right? ... Wrongo! My husband isn't veg. And he comes from a slightly less unsupportive meat and pasta family. He is, despite his steadfast insistence in his body's inability to thrive without animal products, utterly supportive in every other way. And I adore him.... I tell you, lovely reader/less frustrated bearer of some obvious answer, all of this so you can understand that I usually do not get stumped.. When I tell you that this situation makes me want to rock in the corner , hum, and thump my noggin into the wall... I have never been so stuck in a crazy loop before.
You see my mother in law doesn't get it. I mean she really doesn't get it at all.
Before I became a mom I guess I just didn't care all that much if she got it or not but now I have a tiny little vegan that I want her to understand.
She's awesome. Treats me like one of her own. Really. And I love her. But she just doesn't seem to understand why I would not make her a nice turkey or maybe a hamburger if she came to my house. She so kindly makes me coleslaw with nayonaise and leaves out the animal products in my own special little dish when she makes macaroni ( spaghetti for you non Italians like me)... Because and I quote "that is what like and you make what people like for them..."
It's totally not the same thing right? Right. I'm not a crazy person right?... "But [ mother-in-law] I find moral issue with cooking meat. I assume you find no moral issue with leaving crap out of crap? No? I don't request it do I? " "No. I do it because I know you like it and I care about you." " ok so if I don't cook you meat I must not care about you?" " exactly." .... Seriously!?.... This would have been the end of it as they rarely(read never) come to our house.
But....
I'm planning my daughters 1st birthday. I'm hosting it. I'm catering myself... ( I like doing this kind of thing) and I decided... I've caved at my own parties too many times..( my own baby shower had very little for me to eat!) my little one is not going to go through that. From square one she is going to be able to try everything at her own party...
If I never mention that all the food is vegan... Would anyone notice? Probably. But I'm a damn good cook and I'm proud of it.... And omnis always say so if that don't go in expecting it to be gross ( when I find the guy that told all omnis that all food not slathered in Bessie and friends tastes like cardboard I'm going to first flick him really hard...( cuz that's the meanest thing I can think of? )And then I'm going to make him eat a big slice of my chocolate peanut butter pie!
I mentioned my plan to my mother in law... Why? Because I like talking in circles? Close... I want her to understand and accept why I will never ever cook her a turkey... So my daughter can maybe live in a world where no one expects( or even hopes) her to.
So how can I explain it so that she will understand that cooking animal products goes against everything I stand for? That it is not the same situation reversed?
I've been veg*an for about 8 years now and I come from a super unsupportive, meat and potatoes, "oh you know what would be good on that? Meat!" Type of family. So I've herd it ALL. Right? ... Wrongo! My husband isn't veg. And he comes from a slightly less unsupportive meat and pasta family. He is, despite his steadfast insistence in his body's inability to thrive without animal products, utterly supportive in every other way. And I adore him.... I tell you, lovely reader/less frustrated bearer of some obvious answer, all of this so you can understand that I usually do not get stumped.. When I tell you that this situation makes me want to rock in the corner , hum, and thump my noggin into the wall... I have never been so stuck in a crazy loop before.
You see my mother in law doesn't get it. I mean she really doesn't get it at all.
Before I became a mom I guess I just didn't care all that much if she got it or not but now I have a tiny little vegan that I want her to understand.
She's awesome. Treats me like one of her own. Really. And I love her. But she just doesn't seem to understand why I would not make her a nice turkey or maybe a hamburger if she came to my house. She so kindly makes me coleslaw with nayonaise and leaves out the animal products in my own special little dish when she makes macaroni ( spaghetti for you non Italians like me)... Because and I quote "that is what like and you make what people like for them..."
It's totally not the same thing right? Right. I'm not a crazy person right?... "But [ mother-in-law] I find moral issue with cooking meat. I assume you find no moral issue with leaving crap out of crap? No? I don't request it do I? " "No. I do it because I know you like it and I care about you." " ok so if I don't cook you meat I must not care about you?" " exactly." .... Seriously!?.... This would have been the end of it as they rarely(read never) come to our house.
But....
I'm planning my daughters 1st birthday. I'm hosting it. I'm catering myself... ( I like doing this kind of thing) and I decided... I've caved at my own parties too many times..( my own baby shower had very little for me to eat!) my little one is not going to go through that. From square one she is going to be able to try everything at her own party...
If I never mention that all the food is vegan... Would anyone notice? Probably. But I'm a damn good cook and I'm proud of it.... And omnis always say so if that don't go in expecting it to be gross ( when I find the guy that told all omnis that all food not slathered in Bessie and friends tastes like cardboard I'm going to first flick him really hard...( cuz that's the meanest thing I can think of? )And then I'm going to make him eat a big slice of my chocolate peanut butter pie!
I mentioned my plan to my mother in law... Why? Because I like talking in circles? Close... I want her to understand and accept why I will never ever cook her a turkey... So my daughter can maybe live in a world where no one expects( or even hopes) her to.
So how can I explain it so that she will understand that cooking animal products goes against everything I stand for? That it is not the same situation reversed?
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