Abusive relationships; Any 'winners'?

[Freesia]

(((((((Kazy))))))) They sound very mean.

 

[Mischief]

I'm currently feeling a lot of feelings on this matter, as my emotionally abusive boss was recently fired and blames me for it. He, and his wife, left a very unkind letter for me, along with a quilt I made for their wedding, which they destroyed. It was hurtful, but I'm glad he did that, because it was a good opportunity for me to reflect on my own self-esteem and why I let him treat me badly for so long. I certainly won't let it happen again. And his behavior was subtle, so harder to recognize for the abuse it was.

That sort of thing can certainly creep up on someone. Abusers do tend to start "small" and intensify as their victims become acclimated to being treated badly.

 

[kazyeeqen]

(((((((Kazy))))))) They sound very mean.

They don't mean to be. They are just completely unable to self reflect.

 

[ledboots]

They don't mean to be. They are just completely unable to self reflect.

You are wise to understand that, but I'm glad you're away from him. Anyone who would destroy and return a hand made gift is definitely a whacko.

 

[Mischief]

You are wise to understand that, but I'm glad you're away from him. Anyone who would destroy and return a hand made gift is definitely a whacko.

I agree. You're being extraordinarily kind. What they did is indicative of more than a lack of self reflection.

 

[KLS52]

Wow, kazy. Sorry that happened.