My fiance eats a lot of meat. He's a bodybuilder and I am vegan. I make sure that my educational tools are available to him, but I am very aware that he is intelligent and knows what is what, so I do not preach as it wouldn't serve either of us. I can care for myself and make information available, but that's all we can do.Hey hey hello dear veggis.
I was just wondering if any of your partners is an omnivore, or do you all have partners that are vegetarian or vegan like yourself?
Does that sometimes create problems between you?
Do you want to change his/her mind?
My well beloved boyfriend is a meat eater although he doesn't mind cooking with me and eating vegetarian whenever he's with me (which is a lot!). But when we eat out, he eats meat.
What can I say, it's entirely his decision. I would probably prefer if he was vegetarian as it can be easier, but I love him as he is so, so much and don't intend to change him.
I'm not the type to trying to convince anybody to become vegetarian cause I know that never persuaded me when I was still eating meat.
What's your opinion about this?
... but that's all we can do.
I agree its not realistic to expect to turn him.I'm not sure it's a good idea to expect to "turn" your partner. If you want to stay to together I would think it best to try and come to some sort of arrangement/compromise where he cooks for himself, maybe have separate space in the refrigerator and separate cooking utensils (if that's an issue for you).
I'm not sure if its experienced the same for other vegans, but if compassion and integrity is a turn-on, nothing less than vegan works.
If you want to stay to together I would think it best to try and come to some sort of arrangement/compromise where he cooks for himself, maybe have separate space in the refrigerator and separate cooking utensils (if that's an issue for you).
It's more complicated than that, for me, anyway, when you both start out as omnis and then one changes 30 years in and the other doesn't. Throwing away a 40 year marriage isn't an option for me. Compromise is. I'm sure that doesn't work for most but it does for me.
I think its great that compromise is an option for you. Im jealous.It's more complicated than that, for me, anyway, when you both start out as omnis and then one changes 30 years in and the other doesn't. Throwing away a 40 year marriage isn't an option for me. Compromise is. I'm sure that doesn't work for most but it does for me.
I think I feel closer to what you are saying here, with the exception that I dont view their lack of compassion as a personal affront to me .... but more as the inability to evolve at the same rate.That would be exactly like coming to a compromise with a kiddy fiddling partner whereby they separately make/store/watch their child porn.
When you feel for the victims it's not about how or where or when people get happily on with their victimising.
It's that people victimise which hurts.
When it comes to the person you most need to care about how you feel it's the "I don't give a **** how you feel" aspect of their refusal to stop victimising that tells you all you need to know.
It's more complicated than that, for me, anyway, when you both start out as omnis and then one changes 30 years in and the other doesn't. Throwing away a 40 year marriage isn't an option for me. Compromise is. I'm sure that doesn't work for most but it does for me.
I agree, home is where you want to be comfortable.I would prefer a partner that was veg*an. But I think the most important would be that she could live mostly vegan at home. I would not cook meat for her, as I have never liked handling meat even when I was omni myself, and I can't cook meat (still couldn't when I was omni myself, my kitchen skill became fast much better when I became vegetarian).
But. Since I have a very limited opotunity on a partner because of personal "issues", I do have to see a veg*an partner as a bonus. If I should put that too on the list, I would be single all my life probably. For the moment, I'm very happy single, and planning to stay single, but never know what the future brings. But hopefully I meet a girl that is either veg*an or willing to become a veg*an.
Seeing the greatness in another person rather than flaws is the foundation of peace, so kudos on your great relationship with your husband.Yes, exactly.
I think my hubbie is changing quite a lot regarding his view on animals due to my influence, he had a go at someone for getting a kitten from a breeder recently and there was a news report about the UK badger cull and he was making sarky comments about the badger killers. To be honest I think he is a far better person than me in a lot of ways so I don't see why I should get on my high horse just because I'm vegan and he isn't.
Seeing the greatness in another person rather than flaws is the foundation of peace, so kudos on your great relationship with your husband.
I think maybe construing being uncomfortable around meat fumes and having to visually experience death and suffering at every meal and having your holidays centered around a dead animal isnt the same as being on a high-horse though....you think?
Maybe im making too much of my atmosphere?
I want to ignore it, I really do.