I was wondering, especially from vv ers in their 20s and 30s, what do you think is an acceptable age gap in a relationship? Providing the younger of the two is early 20s, what do you think?
A couple of things have gotten me thinking lately. Yesterday, my daughter and I successfully helped a 19-year old woman escape an abusive relationship with a man in his mid-thirties. Also, my daughter, 23, is starting to go out with a guy who's 38. He seems and looks much younger; he's a punk musician (with a day job.) He has no kids or ex wives, and hasn't been to jail. I haven't mentioned his age to my husband yet, I'm not sure what he'll think.It's hard to say. It really depends on the people involved. My boyfriend is 5 years younger than me, which isn't that much, but it is something.
Parallels are sexy.My husband is five years younger than I am. I think if both people are consenting adults, it doesn't matter much. To me, anyway.
This seems to be how my daughter thinks of it, too. She said 40 would be too old, and 38 was really pushing it, but he seems much younger to her. She said no pot belly, not balding or gray, . He's playing Sunday night, and she'll be his guest at the club, so she'll get to meet a bunch of his friends, etc, which will be interesting for her, I'm sure. She's only dated guys around her own age before.I'm 23, and if I was single I would date someone of any age (over the age of consent!) if I liked them, but I wouldn't enter a serious relationship with anyone over 40, and I'd need to give it serious thought if they were over 35. If we had kids then he'd be around 65 by the time they left home, and I might have to go from looking after a child to looking after my partner with no fun alone time in between. Even without kids I wouldn't want to be in the prime of life with a partner starting to get health problems, slowing down, probably losing interest in sex etc. Disclaimer that I know you get 65 year olds in perfect health.
In the end you can't choose who you love and any age rules go out of the window when you meet someone and fall in love with them, but thinking just with my head those would be my thresh holds.
According to science, a successful heterosexual marriage should have the groom 5 years older than the bride.
This seems to be how my daughter thinks of it, too. She said 40 would be too old, and 38 was really pushing it, but he seems much younger to her. She said no pot belly, not balding or gray, . He's playing Sunday night, and she'll be his guest at the club, so she'll get to meet a bunch of his friends, etc, which will be interesting for her, I'm sure. She's only dated guys around her own age before.
I think if both people are consenting adults, it doesn't matter much. To me, anyway.
Yes, she said something similar to that. Since his band has been around a long time, it will be a big group that have known each other a long time. My worry is the other band members gfs/wives, but my D talks a blue streak and loves live music, so I can kind of see the night working.Mr Snot is 4 years older than me, we have a good chance according to science
Even a 4 year age gap causes slight problems. He is anxious to have kids soon whereas I'd rather wait until I'm around his age.
That could be a defining moment. If they patronise her or talk about stuff "before her time" it could put a real dampener on the relationship, which they might do if they think she is too young for him and want to put her off. But hopefully they are pleased for them both and everyone gets on fine
but once you get to 35 you start to feel a bit over the hill and I want someone else to be over the hill with me, i dont want to be over the hill alone.