You're right - 12 days is not a long time, however, back then when social media was non-existent and even online dating was new, it would be the equivalent of a number of months of writing letters or occasional phone calls. I can remember emailing back and forth like we text nowadays.Luck or fate ? 12 days is certainly not a long time to get to know someone.
I like the fact that you stated what you were looking for in a man. That certainly must have frightened many men off from replying. I find some men very strange and get the r signals all wrong . I have occasionally phoned a few men I know just for a friendly chat and they have all though that it was a 'done deal'.
20 years is also quite a long time to be with someone these days and I'm happy that is has worked out for both of you.
My ad included the question "what is the most important sex organ in a woman" and he answered it correctly. I also stated I was looking for a man who had more tools than I did and I had a lot as I am a daughter of a mechanic and grew up in the "car business" with car crazy brothers. When I met him was just when I first read the China Study and so I was already on the path to where we are today and he didn't have any problem with that and we made this journey together, falling down, getting up, falling down and finally getting up and moving forward without looking back.
The fact that many men were frightened off was the point, of course, and it worked. I also did not include any picture other than one similar to my avatar here. Only after communicating was I willing to share pics.
In order to be "lucky" you have to do a lot of work and kiss a lot of frogs. I highly recommend being very specific if you are going to do online ads and that includes what you are willing to tolerate when it comes to eating. I would never, now, go on a date with a non-vegan and there are a whole list of others "never evers" that would be on the list. Is he perfect? am I? not in the slightest and yet we have the ability to deal with each other's foibles and that is really all that matters.
So don't give up, just look in all the right places!