TV & Film Do you feel that you have missed your calling?

[thefadedone]

I have never known what the hell I wanted to do with my life and still don't. I just know that I am nowhere near where I want or expected to be.

I think it can be very self destructive to look back and think about everything one might have done/achieved. It's much healthier to take a look at oneself in the present and try to make of life what one wants going forward.

Definitely. It's so easy to get trapped in the mindset of "should've , could've , would've" . Playing that "What If" game is truly tempting, but so dangerous.

 

[Pickle Juice]

I don't really think I have ever felt like I had a calling.

 

[led.boots]

I've seen them live!

(They were at the Elton John concert I went to last year. I'm just that cool )


As for this thread. Yes I do. I've completely wasted my life and I haven't got a ****ing clue what I'm going to do with the rest of it. Not even sure I want the rest of it.

So jealous you've seen 2 cellos live!

You are so young, so much will change, and things will happen so fast. I hope you take a huge breath and enjoy the ridiculous ride.

Now in my 50s, I have a lot of regrets, but desperately try not to dwell. I don't know if it is my calling or whatever, but I do like my work as a nurse.

 

[Envy]

Well, I'm still young.

 

[KLS52]

As for this thread. Yes I do. I've completely wasted my life and I haven't got a ****ing clue what I'm going to do with the rest of it. Not even sure I want the rest of it.

You are so young, so much will change, and things will happen so fast. I hope you take a huge breath and enjoy the ridiculous ride.

Yes, please!

 

[K-II]

There are a lot of things I'd like to do, but I tend to like taking things at my own pace which isn't very fast. Turning something into work just makes me not want to do it anymore. I don't really feel as though I've missed anything, but I'm quite sure I'll die with plenty of goals un-achieved. Whether that's a bad thing or not, I'm unsure...

 

[Blobbenstein]

I coulda had class. I coulda been a contender. I coulda been somebody, instead of a bum, which is what I am, let's face it.

 

[GingerFoxx]

I love cooking meals for friends and family. I often toyed with the idea of having my own restaurant, but the hours wouldn't really suit me and there really isn't any vegan-only cooking program out there that I'm aware of. All the culinary schools are omnivorous and I couldn't handle that. Plus, generally if you finish culinary school, you end up a dish washer moving slowly up the ranks. I don't have the capital for my own restaurant anyway, and I am not *that* big of a risk taker. So I guess it's random dinner parties for me. Haha. Just as well. I don't adhere to recipes. Most thing I make are improvised versions that are different every time.

 

[led.boots]

I love cooking meals for friends and family. I often toyed with the idea of having my own restaurant, but the hours wouldn't really suit me and there really isn't any vegan-only cooking program out there that I'm aware of. All the culinary schools are omnivorous and I couldn't handle that. Plus, generally if you finish culinary school, you end up a dish washer moving slowly up the ranks. I don't have the capital for my own restaurant anyway, and I am not *that* big of a risk taker. So I guess it's random dinner parties for me. Haha. Just as well. I don't adhere to recipes. Most thing I make are improvised versions that are different every time.

I'm always wowed by the meals you post. Have you thought of catering? There's a vegan catering service in my city that delivers vegan meals to busy people 4 days a week. You could start small. http://thegrassrootlife.com/meal-plan-info/

 

[SuicideBlonde]

Burlesque artist. I would have loved to do that.

 

[Digger]

I think it can be very self destructive to look back and think about everything one might have done/achieved.

Oh I agree and to be honest I'm not quite sure why I even started this thread except maybe to feel sorry for myself. When I was a young boy in the 70's I wanted more than anything else to be a writer and/or filmmaker but my parents told me I'd never amount to anything so I got a degree in business management. Perhaps we can change this thread around to become 'starting over again at any age'?

 

[mlp]

Oh I agree and to be honest I'm not quite sure why I even started this thread except maybe to feel sorry for myself. When I was a young boy in the 70's I wanted more than anything else to be a writer and/or filmmaker but my parents told me I'd never amount to anything so I got a degree in business management. Perhaps we can change this thread around to become 'starting over again at any age'?

Yeah, looking back, I pretty much screwed up all of my major life decisions, one way or another. But then I think about the fact that if I hadn't lived my life exactly as I did, I wouldn't have known any of the animals who came into my life, because they almost all came into my life *accidentally* - I had to be in a certain place at a certain time. God knows I can't imagine not having known even one of them, or having any of them die the way most of them would have. So I can't really say I would change anything if I had to do it over, except be conscious that those screw ups were the price I was going to have to pay to know my guys.

And I also wonder - if I had made different decisions, might things actually have turned out worse?

 

[lucky_charm]

I have always, since I was about 4, wanted to be an author, but never had the commitment to finish what I start writing or the confidence to imagine my writing would ever be good enough to do anything with. So I ended up doing law at university and I always said that I wanted to use my degree to help other people (I have actually wanted to help people/ animals/ the environment in my life and work since I was about 10). I have volunteered (and done some paid work) at an agency which give advice to people on low incomes, an agency which assists asylum seekers and refugees, a law centre which gives legal advice on asylum, human rights or discrimination to ethnic minorities and a law centre who give advice to women and children who have been trafficked into the country or whose immigration status depends on their spouse but they are suffering domestic violence. Although I had no client contact at the latter it was so inspiring to me. However, in order to qualify as a solicitor I needed to get taken on by a firm for training, and neither of the law centres had capacity, so I am now a trainee solicitor working in conveyancing (the legal work of buying and selling houses).

I would love to get back one day to working in the field of human rights, but the job market is so tough just now, most solicitors seem to end up stuck in whatever area they train in. I would also love to one day fulfill my dream of being an author, but I also want to raise a child in a few years and I know that if I am not writing in my free time now because i feel tired And uninspired i am unlikely to write when I have so many more commitments on my time.

I can recognise that I'm extremely lucky (having a job/ career and a supportive partner and family) but I still have moments of panic where I think 'this isn't what I want to do!' and worry that ill wake up one day and think my life has been unfulfilling as I chose the easy route instead of following my dreams...

 

[beancounter]

I can recognise that I'm extremely lucky (having a job/ career and a supportive partner and family) but I still have moments of panic where I think 'this isn't what I want to do!' and worry that ill wake up one day and think my life has been unfulfilling as I chose the easy route instead of following my dreams...

A number of years ago on "the other board", there was a women looking for encouragement/support in pursuing a career in dance. Me and one other member encourage her and wished her luck, but we also suggested that in addition to dance, she acquire other skills, such as secretarial/clerical, or other office work as a "fall back" career should her dance career not pan out.

She became very angry and hurt, thinking we were trying to intentionally discourage her,..that in some underhanded way we were saying that she wasn't good enough.. when in fact we were trying to help her, as very few people who go into the entertainment industry actually "make it big".

 

[thefadedone]

I'm always wowed by the meals you post. Have you thought of catering? There's a vegan catering service in my city that delivers vegan meals to busy people 4 days a week. You could start small. http://thegrassrootlife.com/meal-plan-info/

I second this idea.

 

[GingerFoxx]

The issue is, I don't have set recipes. I usually just open the fridge and improvise based on whatever is there, sometimes using ideas I read from recipes online. I think the solution is I just need more local friends I can cook for. hahah.

 

[VeganWoWer]

The issue is, I don't have set recipes. I usually just open the fridge and improvise based on whatever is there, sometimes using ideas I read from recipes online. I think the solution is I just need more local friends I can cook for. hahah.

That's it! I'm moving to your area and we must become friends! OR You can move to Chicago.

 

[Kitties]

I go back to 'if I could do it all over again' thoughts sometimes. I'm not creative or talented so I certainly don't think I could have done anything in the arts or entertainment.

I just wish I didn't think I couldn't do anything when I was young.

 

[Lord Snot]

Yes. I have so many regrets and I can see exactly which moment in my life I made the wrong choice and set me on this path. But I try and remind myself that I couldn't have known at the time what I was doing wrong and this path has led me to many good things, especially my husband.

 

[Lord Snot]

Yes. I have so many regrets and I can see exactly which moment in my life I made the wrong choice and set me on this path. But I try and remind myself that I couldn't have known at the time what I was doing wrong and this path has led me to many good things, especially my husband.