I'm reading a bit on a Norwgian board for fun. A lot of quite special topics there, and I'm "learing" a lot of really good thing (very ironic.... ). I have example learned that if you invite to dinner it's very polite to make food that not all the guest can eat, but not polite if you make food all can eat (of cause about vegetarian. It's not polite for veg*ans to serve no-meat dishes to meat eaters when they invite to dinner in their own homes. ). All men cheats, it's OK to date a guy that beat up his former girlfriend etc etc.
But. I think there some opinions on relationships I think sometimes are a bit alarming, and sometimes a bit strange. But I'm really not the right person to judge anything in relationships, since I don't get them to work.
I seems like some have a very strong urge to controll their partner a lot. It's everything from who they hang out with, who they can have as a friend, what to wear, how they going to cut their hair, what kind of interests/hobbies they can have, how much time they can use on their hobbies, when to get to bed, when to get out of bed etc etc etc. And of cause the discussion about having full access to FB account, phone and mail account and can check and read what they want, when they want.
Of cause it's different from when you have children or not. Since children take time. But how much do you think it's ok to controll your partner? And where's the limit for you when it gets obsessed and alarming, and where it's normal?
For me the thought of having opinion about my partners friends and such things are very, very strange and nothing I had thought of trying to get in the middle of. And I get really big problems when other people try to have strong opinions if I can talk with a friend on the phone or not, meet them in RL and such things. But am I the strange one? It seems so normal for a lot of people to be able to tell their partner "you aren't allowed to"...
But. I think there some opinions on relationships I think sometimes are a bit alarming, and sometimes a bit strange. But I'm really not the right person to judge anything in relationships, since I don't get them to work.
I seems like some have a very strong urge to controll their partner a lot. It's everything from who they hang out with, who they can have as a friend, what to wear, how they going to cut their hair, what kind of interests/hobbies they can have, how much time they can use on their hobbies, when to get to bed, when to get out of bed etc etc etc. And of cause the discussion about having full access to FB account, phone and mail account and can check and read what they want, when they want.
Of cause it's different from when you have children or not. Since children take time. But how much do you think it's ok to controll your partner? And where's the limit for you when it gets obsessed and alarming, and where it's normal?
For me the thought of having opinion about my partners friends and such things are very, very strange and nothing I had thought of trying to get in the middle of. And I get really big problems when other people try to have strong opinions if I can talk with a friend on the phone or not, meet them in RL and such things. But am I the strange one? It seems so normal for a lot of people to be able to tell their partner "you aren't allowed to"...