It's not about infighting. It's about projecting an image to the non-vegan public...in an effort to increase our numbers, not to perpetuate an exclusive club.
I did not explicitly or implicitly suggest that anyone should be criticized.
And it would help if people didn't jump at any opportunity (real or imagined) to play the victim.
My comments about infighting were not in reference to you but in reference to the original post, in which Sproutskies described being criticized by other vegans for choosing to use old leather items. No one accused anyone in this thread of infighting. We can discuss and disagree with each other; that is healthy. What is not productive is attacking other vegans for their choices. Surely you would agree that there is a lot of that out there, at least online.
I would say that the image being projected when a vegan tries to be perfect according to an arbitrary definition (as opposed to following a general guiding principle of doing the least harm) is that veganism is about personal purity. When you explain why you are choosing to use your old leather items, the image you are projecting is that veganism is about refusing to support cruelty.
I don't see who is playing the victim here. Not wanting to be criticized is completely normal. People do better when they are acknowledged for their efforts and encouraged. When they are criticized and shamed, they reject the input as being completely wrong (because accepting the input would mean they are wrong, bad, and stupid, and no human wants to believe that.) So when a vegan criticizes another person, vegan or nonvegan, they are ensuring that their comments will be wholly rejected. That does not help the vegan cause; it encourages people who are vegan and are doing their best to stop calling themselves vegan, and it convinces non-vegans that vegans are unreasonable.
I also think it's relevant to this discussion to note that most of the plants we eat as vegans are grown with animal fertilizer, which I guess is cheaper than plant fertilizer because of the size of the factory farm industry. Furthermore, we are all still supporting the factory farm industry with our taxes because of the heavy subsidies the industries that exploit animals receive. In other words, no matter how perfect we are as vegans, we are still supporting animal suffering with our money. If we want to stop animal cruelty, we need to grow the vegan movement by leaps and bounds, not make sure that the small percentage of people out there who call themselves vegan are perfect vegans who make the same choices we do. In order to be better vegans ourselves, we need those imperfect vegans who may not be doing everything right yet but who are no longer propping up the factory farm industry.
Nothing above is meant to criticize anyone on this forum, which is full of vegans who are respectful of others. If it were a place of infighting, I would not post here, and I suspect many others wouldn't, either. I really appreciate this place and think it provides excellent support and guidance for new vegans.