This forum can be very useful to someone who has a specific well defined problem. Respondents can immediately understand the situation and offer solutions. Sometimes the offerings are excellent. Sometimes they are mediocre. Sometimes they are downright rubbish. But at least the problem gets aired and somebody gets something off their chest.
Your original post centred on a problem that was so multi-faceted that I felt potential respondents would be at a loss to know where to start. They would feel they didn’t have the expertise to help. We are all in charge of our own salvations (in the secular meaning of the word you understand!) but I would again ask you to seriously consider seeking professional advice to help organise your way forward.
Wouldn’t you agree with me that the very best threads on the forum are those posing straight forward questions or observations? I appreciate that there is often somebody who irritatingly takes the discussion off at a complete tangent. I admit to suffering from that tendency myself! But there is usually somebody else to bring it back on track again.
Your second post contains the germs of several ideas that might start off a couple of new threads from you. Based on for example, “Do veg fairs serve any purpose”. Or, “Do vegans care more for animals than people”. Or, “Is the forum dominated by too many regulars who get all the say” though that one might step on too many toes.
Anyway, good luck with your future.