When I told my mother that my cat Bear had died, she responded that she couldn't share my sadness with me because she was still mourning the death of my father, almost three years earlier. WTF?
Does she plan to be in mourning for the rest of her life? That's no way to live . . .
Yes, actually.
My Nan: "Yesss! Now it'll be easier for you to go on holiday"
When I told my mother that my cat Bear had died, she responded that she couldn't share my sadness with me because she was still mourning the death of my father, almost three years earlier. WTF?
some people are just clueless and don't understand the bond that forms between some people and their companion animals. If they did, they wouldn't say the things they say.
My mom is still mourning my dad and always will. They were married 54 years until his death. And now all her friends have passed, too.That is quite understandable given her age. I once knew a widow who lost her husband when she was in her early 30's. She never remarried or even went out on a date.
No, it was your mother's responsibility, not a 10 year old's!!Yikes! I know sometimes people don't know what to say but... wow.
My mother, to me about half an hour after my hamster died when I was 10: "Stop crying, it was your fault it died anyway"
No, it was your mother's responsibility, not a 10 year old's!!
What a horrible thing to say to a ten year oldI know that now At the time, though...
Yes, actually.
It's reasonable to still be grieving your husband after 3 years, but to be so upset you cannot mourn anything else is worrying. I hope your Mom is Ok.
Actually, it's not just that their lifespans are too short... although I think they are. It's that I am not satisfied with end-of-life care options for animals.5. That’s why I don’t have pets. Those short lifespans are too heartbreaking.
I’ll bet you almost anything that the person you’re talking to has thought (or even said aloud) that they can’t go through this pain again, and they just can’t have more pets. The years of joy and love our pets give us prior to their passing truly do make up for the pain we feel at the time of goodbye, but in the throes of grief, it’s hard to remember that. I know you’re just trying to commiserate, but if you don’t have pets, I’m certain it’s for more reasons than just the heartbreak at the end.