Are You happy to be single?

[yally]

I'd consider cuddling a definite benefit.

For sure but it's hard to invite a FWB for a film and cuddle without ending up with a dick in you.

 

[Calliegirl]

You just haven't found the right one. You need one who's a friend first, and benefits when you're both in the mood. I have one of those and it's great. Right now we are just friends though as he has a g/f at the moment. There were plenty of times we got together just to hang out (dinner, talking, watching dvds) without having sex, and times we got together just for the sex.

 

[Freesia]

I dont know if I could do that, I have tried having those and I usually end up liking them.

 

[yally]

I dont know if I could do that, I have tried having those and I usually end up liking them.

Yeah, same, if I'm friends with someone and I fancy them enough to sleep with them, I'd quite like more from them.

I can think of one exception but he doesn't live round here anymore and it would be sex, not intimacy.

I'm jealous of the people who can make it work

 

[Freesia]

Yeah. And I was happy in previous years to have flings etc but they are not what I want anymore. Though I guess if the opportunity presented I would, but still... my priorities have changed.

 

[veganchick]

I have a couple of male friends to who i am close to but it is pure friendship I have neve been in love so to speak and i am not sure i believe in it. I would find being single easier if i had more friends and more to do. As it is my health and lack of money make it difficult people lose interest if a person cannot join in socially because of the costs. I suffer from social anxiety and that makes socialising a real challenge.

 

[KLS52]

I have a daughter, 37, who is single. Her feelings on the matter are, the older she gets and the longer she stays single, the less likely she is to want a permanent relationship with someone. She is very used to doing what she wants, when she wants and she is afraid of giving up that freedom. She has a great job/career.

She would very much like to have a special someone and has also expressed her desire to have children, but if it doesn't happen, she seems to be content with that. It seems it would be a fine line and she is not sure of her ability to walk it. At least that is what she tells me, her mom.

 

[yally]

I have a couple of male friends to who i am close to but it is pure friendship I have neve been in love so to speak and i am not sure i believe in it. I would find being single easier if i had more friends and more to do. As it is my health and lack of money make it difficult people lose interest if a person cannot join in socially because of the costs. I suffer from social anxiety and that makes socialising a real challenge.

I could have written this post

 

[Freesia]

I have a daughter, 37, who is single. Her feelings on the matter are, the older she gets and the longer she stays single, the less likely she is to want a permanent relationship with someone. She is very used to doing what she wants, when she wants and she is afraid of giving up that freedom. She has a great job/career.

She would very much like to have a special someone and has also expressed her desire to have children, but if it doesn't happen, she seems to be content with that. It seems it would be a fine line and she is not sure of her ability to walk it. At least that is what she tells me, her mom.

I kind of get what she is saying. I sort of feel the same about children, I am not sure whether it is in my destiny or not either.

But I would like a partner though, I get really bored being by myself, I am not really very good at being alone for long periods. I kind of go a bit crazy. I wish I was someone who could just spend hours in their own company. Though admittedly some relationships make one feel alone.

 

[Underdog]

When I became single, I also stopped going grey.

Coincidence?

 

[shyvas]

I kind of get what she is saying. I sort of feel the same about children, I am not sure whether it is in my destiny or not either.

But I would like a partner though, I get really bored being by myself, I am not really very good at being alone for long periods. I kind of go a bit crazy. I wish I was someone who could just spend hours in their own company. Though admittedly some relationships make one feel alone.

True. In my opinion it is worse than actually living alone. At least you only have to deal with yourself and not
a partner who may be in the relation for other reasons than caring for the other one.

As for having children, one can have a very happy fullfilling live without being a parent.

http://sylviadlucas.com/2012/03/16/fulfilled-without-children/

 

[yally]

I have absolutely no interest in having children.

 

[Blobbenstein]

single? but what about all my fruit flies that come out of the bin? surely they count?

 

[RascalsMom]

I'm newly single (as in, less than a month).. It normally takes me a while to get sick of being single. I'm still young, though, so I enjoy "being young and having fun"...
but I do miss having a comfortable committed relationship.
I guess, I'm happy either way. My happiness isn't based on my relationship status, and when someone special comes along, I'll get into a committed relationship again. Until then, I'll enjoy being young and single.

 

[Pirate]

Mostly. I miss the regular sex than the actual companionship. I swear, other people have more of a problem with me being single than I do. I was shoved into joining a dating site, didnt enjoy it so left, now my sister is badgering me to get back on it.

 

[Freesia]

Sometimes I wonder if I ever want anyone else. I am untidy and I dont want to inflict my erratic housekeeping on someone who disapproves of it. A lot of men expect that because you are a woman you will automatically be into cleaning etc.... i am a poor housekeeper and I think that it would be best if I was alone so I dont have someone casting aspersions on me.

 

[PTree15]

I definitely enjoy my freedom being single. It wasn't my initial choice to be single, but I realized that I'm probably better off that way . I don't think a partner would put up with my traveling/music habit or my lack of desire for an orderly household . I'm not the greatest housekeeper. Plus, I'm very close with my family, and we do a lot together. Plus, I've had my own way now for too long to put up with having to accommodate someone else's needs/wants. Plus, I'm old !

 

[ledboots]

Sometimes I wonder if I ever want anyone else. I am untidy and I dont want to inflict my erratic housekeeping on someone who disapproves of it. A lot of men expect that because you are a woman you will automatically be into cleaning etc.... i am a poor housekeeper and I think that it would be best if I was alone so I dont have someone casting aspersions on me.

Oh, who cares about housekeeping? There are plenty of men out there who either don't care about (or even notice) the untidiness, and plenty who wouldn't mind doing most of the tidying up in exchange for your delicious vegan meals.

 

[Freesia]

Thanks. I just wish I could find someone like that : ) . I dont mind doing many types of housework but I really have problems with vaccuuming. I dont know why I hate it so much.

 

[Spang]

I dont mind doing many types of housework but I really have problems with vaccuuming. I dont know why I hate it so much.

I enjoy vacuuming. But the commute would be unpleasant.