Well, I would choose a private humiliation over a public one any time. That's been true all my life.
It is true that there is no single right way to parent, unless your parenting philosophy calls for knowing your children's personalities and natures better than they do themselves, and tailoring your disciplinary actions to the individual child, so that they become teaching tools, not soul destroyers.
I choose no humiliation.
At least the father is visible here too, offering his own embarrassment at a disobedient daughter, putting himself in front of the scrutiny of others as an imperfect parent. With a private humiliation like a spanking there is only the two parties and one has all the authority over the other. Hard to get perspective that way.
I'm not saying it's right or good or anything, I really don't know. If I were a parent, which I probably won't be, I would probably not reprimand my child this way. But I don't know.
getting in the middle of that would also not be a wise idea if the parent was around.Exactly, Forster. When I found my 15-year old daughter lying about a destination, she had to call me when she arrived at places for awhile, and check in frequently. After a time, trust built up, and I could back off.
I saw a kid in the food court of the mall holding a sign that said he was messy and lazy and lied about it. He was about 12. I wanted to stop it, but luckily the mall cop took the sign away.