I'm vegetarian and my husband isn't. He hates that I don't eat meat myself. He cannot understand but more importantly, he doesn't want to. Seems it makes him cross. A lot. Sad and don't know what to do.
Feeling alone
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I don't know what to suggest about your husband's intense disagreement with your vegetarianism. Since you've said he doesn't want to understand, I'm assuming you've explained it to him- or at least tried to- but he didn't want to hear it. I'm also assuming that you weren't vegetarian when the two of you first met and then got married. Has he said exactly why your vegetarianism is a problem for him?
Most people aren't vegetarian (at least in the U.S., where I live, and the U.K., where you are). If you're looking for the company of other vegetarians, maybe joining a vegetarian social group would make you feel less alone. I don't know if this would make him even more cross than he is already.
Most people aren't vegetarian (at least in the U.S., where I live, and the U.K., where you are). If you're looking for the company of other vegetarians, maybe joining a vegetarian social group would make you feel less alone. I don't know if this would make him even more cross than he is already.
Thank you for your reply.
I was not veggie when we married, I gave up meat fullye10 years ago having had an adult life really disliking meat but cooking and eating it with my husband and sons. It was just easier to eat with them but one day I'd just had enough. Haven't touched it since, other than I'm still cooking meat for him.
Maybe I try talk to him about it again. Don't hold much hope for that though.
Thank you for listening and taking the time to read x
I suspect many people who are intensely opposed to vegetarianism and veganism take this stance because they're getting it mixed up in the wider culture war. They've chosen a side in the culture war, so now they must hate and ridicule everything and everyone on the other side.
As far as vegetarianism goes, it's actually an ancient practice which predates our current culture wars by thousands of years. So, it's a little nonsensical to assume that everyone who is vegetarian necessarily belongs to a particular side of current-day culture wars.
As far as vegetarianism goes, it's actually an ancient practice which predates our current culture wars by thousands of years. So, it's a little nonsensical to assume that everyone who is vegetarian necessarily belongs to a particular side of current-day culture wars.
@swintongal I hope things are going more smoothly now than they were last week. You're willing to cook meat for your family, so I don't know why anybody has an issue. But sometimes people have quirks. I became vegetarian when I was living with my parents, and often prepared my own main course so Mom wouldn't have to make anything extra for me. I ate anything else we were having without complaints (even when I didn't care that much for it, such as canned beets or peas). Do you know the only complaint I ever got?.... It was from Dad, if I baked bread too late in the day. The smell of it bothered him. 
When most people love the smell of bread baking
Honestly think it may be a bit of a control problem for him. He needs to chill right out
Thanks for replying.
If you started to eat flesh, would he find another reason to control you?
